Breaking Free from your Fears
Have you ever thought about all the things that make you feel afraid? It often seems that there’s never a shortage of scary items in the media so, if you had to make a note of everything that triggered your feelings of anxiety or uneasiness, it would probably turn out to be a very long list. Because everyone’s afraid of something. Whether it’s spiders, snakes, the dark, failure, strangers or the number thirteen – the list seems to include every possible facet of daily life. But why do we allow the shadow of fear to cast its negative influence upon so many aspects of our lives?
Whilst fear can be a very useful trait in helping us to avoid threats and dangers, it’s amazing how far our anxieties can proliferate and contaminate every aspect of our daily experience. Fear seems to stand firmly in the way of our ability to enjoy life’s rich array of opportunities. It hinders our progress and steals the joy from our hearts. And it’s worth remembering that fear has become one the dominant forces in our culture. Fear seems to set the limits on everything that we’re capable of achieving and experiencing.
Doubt kills more dreams than failure ever will. – Suzy Kassem
Fear can cast its shadow on our careers, dampening our enthusiasm and derailing our determination. Fear of rejection stifles our ambition. Fear builds walls around our hearts and keeps others safely at a distance, corroding the comforting warmth of human closeness and emotional intimacy. Fear isolates us from others as well as separating us from our latent potential to fulfil our lives and express our full potential. Fear is the silent thief that steals our joy and diverts our precious energy.
It’s time to address this daily drain on our resources and learn to free ourselves from its dark embrace.
Your mission: Be so busy loving your life that you have no time for hate, regret or fear. – Karen Salmansohn
There are many ways to deal with our fears and neutralise their influence in our lives. The most common advice is to learn to face whatever scares us – and expose the fear to the scrutiny of our analytical faculties. This is a simple yet surprisingly effective method. Fear rarely survives when exposed to the light of reason. And there’s a good reason for that: the parts of the brain that generate the fear response are directly connected to our higher brain functions. As we turn the bright focus of logic and reason onto the fear response, our brains automatically turn down stress and anxiety levels and heighten our ability to reason our way past the old barriers of fear, doubt and uncertainty.
Fear is well recognised as a disabling force that can lead to prolonged bouts of anxiety – and even to depression. By being active and turning the spotlight on our fears, we begin to feel that we’re more in control of the situation. We recognise that we’re capable of taking steps to address our fears – rather than remain frozen in a state of inertia. Taking action is one of the key steps in developing a sense of personal empowerment and it’s a very effective antidote to the old paralysing effects of fear.
Ultimately, we know deeply that the other side of every fear is a freedom. – Marilyn Ferguson
It can also be very helpful to slow down and breathe more deeply and ask ourselves why we’re experiencing fear at this particular juncture in our lives. The timing can reveal the underlying drives and circumstances that trigger our instinctive desire to run for cover and hide under the bed! Are you on the verge of success or an important breakthrough? That’s when fear usually raises its ugly head and blights the proceedings. Or, at least that’s how fear used to show up – before you decided to bid farewell to all your shadows and doubts and anxieties.
Only when we are no longer afraid do we begin to live. – Dorothy Thompson
Many of our deep-seated fears can be traced to long-forgotten childhood episodes that imprinted their hidden mark on our behaviours at a time when we were highly impressionable. These are the foundations for many of our future emotional reactions – and this obviously applies to our fears. Whilst some of those early, conditioned reflexes made sense because they were intended to keep us safe and away from harm, many of these negative reactions have become completely exaggerated and they’ve strayed into parts of our lives where they simply do not belong.
It can also be very liberating to ask yourself who exactly is feeling the fear. Because many of our anxieties require us to assume a particular role when we feel afraid, threatened, embarrassed or unsure. It’s as if we have to assume a specific mindset in order to experience our old fears. When you catch yourself playing one of these roles, you can see immediately that it’s just like acting out a script that some unknown person once wrote for you. It isn’t real. It’s a role. And that’s the moment when you can decide not to play.
This is also an opportunity for you to consider alternatives. When fear is stalking your peace of mind and sabotaging your good intentions, you can now ask yourself a simple question along the lines of: ‘What if I choose to feel positive, strong and completely empowered in the face of this challenge?’ Imagine the difference this could make to your attitude. Replacing the old paralysing fear and turning your energy towards something much more positive and rewarding.
He who has overcome his fears will truly be free. – Aristotle
This is where we should truthfully consider most of our fears as little more than habits that we developed during early childhood. We might’ve forgotten the events that sparked the fears but the habits have endured for far too long. It’s time to dismantle them and discover a way of living that frees us from these limiting conditions that have no place in our lives, our plans, our goals and our ambitions.
Make a clear declaration today that you’re going to free yourself from the bonds of your doubts and fears and anxieties and start living your life with the freedom and personal empowerment that will help you accomplish all your goals and aspirations.
Fear, hatred, and suspicion narrow your mind – whereas compassion opens it. – Dalai Lama
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